Daily Meditation for January 8

Good Morning, Today is Wednesday, January 8th, 2014 and here is today's meditation:

 

January 8

When people make changes in their lives in a certain area, they may start by changing the way they talk about that subject, how they act about it, their attitude toward it, or an underlying decision concerning it.

 

-Jean Illsley Clarke

 

Acting "as if" is powerful.  It leads the way to a changed attitude, a changed person.  If we are self-conscious in crowds and fearful about meeting new people and yet act poised and extend our hands in friendship, we'll not only behave in a new way, but feel good about it, too.  Each act we take in this way brings us closer to the person we are behaving like.  Each positive change we make builds our self-esteem.  Realizing that through our own actions we are becoming the kind of person we admire gives us the strength, in fact, encourages the excitement in us that's needed to keep changing.  Making positive changes in our lives is the stuff that comprises self-esteem.  Each gain makes the next one easier to attempt.

 

Blunt:  Today was a groggy start to the day.  I needed to talk myself into feeling better.  I remembered a quote I recently shared from another person earlier this week:

 

Inhale Love....Exhale Gratitude.

 

I had to think of everything in my life I am grateful for...and it worked!  After I repeated the above breathing while reciting the words, I thought of my beautiful world...I call LIFE.

 

 Much Love, Light and Peace!



Step 1 cont'd

While using the amethyst Crystal one should be saying affirmations, such as:  "I am an asset" or "I am enough" ten times in a row.   This can be done while driving, first thing in the morning or whenever you choose.  This is also the time you need to change your thoughts, words and actions.  Changing my morning routine has helped me with my thought process.       I begin my day by thanking God and the Universe for all events in my life which have brought me  exact ly where I need to be.  We must begin to let go of the past and our resentments as well as self-loathing.  Once we forgive ourselves only then can we begin ANEW.

This is also tbe time to begin reading helpful books for a new way of life.  I highly recommend Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach.  Each time you read the book at different stages of recovery you will uncover something new could not see during the previous read.

I will update as new memories and tips come to mind.  Feel free to leave comments and snswer the question I added to the blog.   I hope this to be helpful.

Thank you!

Recovering

Recovery

Step 1 (cont'd) - During this phase, comes a time when you just need to STOP talking about the hurt, anger, pain, etc and TAKE ACTION, take action to remove the pain, hurt, anger, etc. from your being or yes, I'm going to say it, your SOUL.  Because that is where everything is stored and where it affects who we are, alters who we are and where it hurts!


Tools - There are several tools I use to help me through the process and I still continue to use as my way of life. 

• Crystals - An amethyst is recommended for the initial healing process.  I carried mine around for a very long time.  It lessened my anxiety and literally helped alleviate the hurt I felt deep within me in conjunction with the other tool, writing and burning, which I mention below.  The following link provides more information on amethysts and its healing properties at http://tinyurl.com/ls4zfb7. 

         **Special note:  Clean the crystal in a small bowl filled with water and salt.  Let it sit for 5 minutes.   Once a month place the crystal in your window under the full moon for cleansing and energy. 

You should carry it with you all the time and hold onto it in your hand whenever possible to alleviate stress, anxiety and to help bring calm during the healing phase for at least one month.

How it all began cont'd

~(Cont'd)This is how it all began ~
During the time when I left the relationship, we continued to try to work things out MAINLY for the child.  I had such a hard time KNOWING or trying to know that I(we - child and I) were much better off and healthier living away from the child's father and not in the same house.  This is where I was fooling myself into thinking I could remain the abused, controlled person who would have the respect of her child living with a man who did not even have a quarter of an ounce of respect for me. Yes, completely crazy thought process.  The truth of the matter is IT IS OKAY FOR CHILDREN TO COME FROM A DIVORCED FAMILY AND PARENTS WHO DO NOT LIVE TOGETHER WHEN IT IS AN EXTREMELY UNHEALTHY FAMILY DYNAMIC.  I am and can continue to be teh  mother I am because "the switch" in my brain clicked and I realized if i tried to continue to be someone I wasn't Iwould lose my life.  That is how bad it was for me.

Such shame is cast upon women who are in abusive relationships and who are divorced.  Who REALLY cares!  That's just it....society cares.  NEWSFLASH:  Take a look at our society.  What makes it so great.  How do people treat one another?  What is valued in our society?  We've lost our sense of valuing people and genuinely caring about them and for them.  I digress..back to the story.

 

 

I hated myself, truly hated me, my life, what I had done with it, how could I choose this, yet I did.  I felt the need to continue punishing myself.  The punishment was living under a different roof and trying to work it out with him.  He was my punishment and in my mind, I deserved it.  I even believed I deserved to die and I would have taken my own life...I knew I would if I didn't change SOMETHING.  The only time I was happy was my time without him and I knew it!  So now how do I overcome my FEAR and unlock my PRISON?????

New Way (cont'd)

`Your personal thoughts, comments and suggestions are welcome on this blog. ~   Thank you!

One of the areas we seem to find very hard to deal with is what people say.  then we begin to form our own thoughts, ideas or rebuttal.  How about we allow everyone the freedom to think and talk.  Everything someone says or does has nothing t do with US.

As we allow others the freedom to be without needing anything from what they say. Many free thinkers say many things that have nothing to do with anyone.  To watch every word or thought that one says has no freedom. This does not mean the freedom t harm others, but many people jump into the middle of your thoughts thinking they are somewhat involved. 

The path has no idle thought.  Much of what is said has meaning or purpose only for the thinker.  **Always look at everything without mixing yourself into it.**

The things that have become very clear is that  most people are so self obsessed they have no room for new ideas.  It is like saying hello.  They think what does he/she mean by that?  People who cannot weave their own dreams hook into the dreamer making it part of the expression they themselves would like to be able to do. 

Most that I meet will spend so much time on trying to fix, make something out of anything. They grab onto others words, mostly because they think they can't dream.

Without the dreams of what you wish to do or become you will never grow to the fullest.  You will listen to someone and weave that person's thoughts or off-handed remark into something you wish it to be. 

For example:

• You must be willing to give everything away to arrive at this new way of life.  The very first thing people will say, "no problem"  The next breath it begins to be modified so that soon we turn our will back over to our thoughts.  Unless we have some thought of the outcome we don't give anything for something new until the new has been captured or we have a 99% chance of getting it.

~Today brings more from Douglas Ray's writings, A New Way.  These writings are presented in page by page order as he has written them.~

A New Way

by Douglas Ray

Truth can not be spoken from a plain that someone is unaware of.  It would be like explaining how to swim if you never saw or understood water.  We never reach beyond the mask of here and now to uncover the realm of real. So if we only know this material realm how can we find truth, until we understand that we live in a plain of transition.  Always in a state of flux.  We have very little ability to understand permanence, so therefore, we change all the time.  We call it growth.  Nothing is made to last we don't even allow God to be.  We ask him over and over to correct things, so how can anything be right.  We think God has made a  mistake.  As long as we think and act this way we will never arrive at the moment of absolute total spirit truth.

As long as we find the need to seek more of everything we need to have attachment. When one can have no attachment to anything then he can begin to see that they are ALL THINGS not man made things.  People attach themselves to other people, places and things all the time to give themselves value.  And in value there is truth.....so we think.

Truth only comes with knowing not getting.  Direct knowledge is truth.

How does one know direct truth from verbal truth?  Watch everything around you. When you begin to understand the purpose, reason and meaning of all things you will be ready for direct truth.  Any new idea that seems to go against the norm...when something causes us to close our minds, I have found through allowing it, things are different.  They make one look in a different way at something.  As before, we attach to something new with any idea at what it is. 

Very few times do we experience anything real.  So when it happens we attach a feeling or action to it.  It's like reading about a person's path if they begin to explain it and we truly understand why are we reading it?  For the age old thought that someone else came this way.  But if we don't understand it or it causes no reaction we thing something is a miss.

From my time many things I read do not impact me at the moment, yet somewhere it develops.  A deal of time can pass then at some later time it explodes and thros us to another level.  When one seeks neither life nor death we are there.

We do the same things over and over.  If we fail we try it over again, modifying an old idea thinking it's new.  It is still at the core an old idea.

We change only if it hurts bad enough.  And only change to the point where we go up to pain.  The old saying, "give until it hurts", how about, "give until there is nothing left to give".  If you reach that point you have become limitless.